It’s a given; whenever we start a new relationship, we subconsciously lookout for the red flags we missed in our past relationships. But what about the green flags? The ones that caught our attention from the start and are still waving sky high.
Aside from those fluttering butterflies that seem to inhabit our stomachs at the mere thought of them, it’s also an exciting feeling when we recognize how healthy their relationship habits are. The way they effectively communicate their feelings towards you or how they pay attention to all the small things that make you you. Dating the right person is one of the greatest feelings in the world, and certain indicators will let you know you’re headed in the right direction.
Communication is key in any [romantic or platonic] relationship. Being able to effectively communicate with your partner, despite the context of the conversation is a clear indicator of the relationship’s future.
- In a disagreement, do they understand your point of view?
- Do they effectively communicate their intentions in the relationship?
- Are they learning your love languages?
If you can answer yes to any of the above questions, you’ve got a progressive partner who makes sure they are completely transparent about their feelings and intentions with you.
How your partner spends their free time says a lot about their personality. Spending time in a way that is conducive to their future and yours is a key green flag to look out for. Hobbies like working out, reading books, enjoying nature, and other activities that allow them to better themselves are great ways to understand who they are at their core.
It’s inevitable that there are going to be arguments in the relationship. But, it’s not how it starts; it’s how it finishes. So, if you two can end the disagreement meeting at a respectful and mutual ground, then this is a positive characteristic to admire.
- Are they respectful of your opinion?
- Do they refrain from raising their voice?
- Do they try to understand your point of view?
Questions like these can help you understand whether you have a patient and comprehensive individual in your corner.
Sitting in complete and comfortable silence in a relationship may sound super weird, but it actually happens to be a strong indicator of how at ease you two are together in still moments. Silence speaks a mouthful in certain situations, and this is definitely one where it’s mutually understood that you two are comfortable in each others space.
If being with this person inspires you to grow as an individual, then this is another incredible green flag to be aware of. When you become inclined to work on your health, career, or spirituality simply by being around them, then this person may be the one for you. Good people come into your life inspire you to grow, so keep them around.
If your partner remembers all the small things about you and applies them to your relationship, then you’ve got a winner. Like everything in life, it’s the small things that actually make the biggest difference. Someone who remembers minor details about you aims to make you feel as comfortable as possible when you’re with them.
The first time a personal boundary is crossed can be a major dealbreaker in any relationship. But, it’s not the first time the boundary is crossed that you should take heed of — it’s if it happens again. Anyone who truly respects you will learn what makes you tick and understand how to avoid situations that push you beyond your limits.
Trust is a large factor in any relationship, so it’s important to understand the minor ways your partner shows that they trust you. For example, if they are comfortable leaving you in their home alone, are okay with leaving their phone unlocked around you, or confiding in you about personal issues, then this means they trust you. This means that they are making room for you in their life and have absolutely nothing to hide.
When you genuinely like someone, it isn’t easy to keep your hands to yourself. Yes, lustfully but also affectionately. Small things like touching the small of your back, moving the hair out of your face, or delicate forehead kisses are a great way to tell if your presence makes a difference in their behavior.